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<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" > <channel> <title>Lee LeFever dot com</title> <atom:link href="https://leelefever.com/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /> <link>https://leelefever.com</link> <description>Official Website of Lee LeFever</description> <lastBuildDate>Wed, 29 Jan 2025 01:00:14 +0000</lastBuildDate> <language>en-US</language> <sy:updatePeriod> hourly </sy:updatePeriod> <sy:updateFrequency> 1 </sy:updateFrequency> <image> <url>https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/cropped-site-icon-Lee-32x32.jpg</url> <title>Lee LeFever dot com</title> <link>https://leelefever.com</link> <width>32</width> <height>32</height></image> <item> <title>A New Lens on Human Nature</title> <link>https://leelefever.com/a-new-lens-on-human-nature/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=a-new-lens-on-human-nature</link> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Lee LeFever]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Wed, 29 Jan 2025 00:59:11 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Vibes Project]]></category> <category><![CDATA[coolness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Human nature]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Nerdiness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Research]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">https://leelefever.com/?p=9972</guid> <description><![CDATA[One of my dreams is to share an idea that can’t be unseen. Once it is understood, it becomes a new lens for seeing the world from a different perspective. The most obvious example is Darwin’s theory of evolution. He provided humanity with a lens that explained the natural world. Everywhere you point that lens, the […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One of my dreams is to share an idea that <em>can’t be unseen</em>. Once it is understood, it becomes a new lens for seeing the world from a different perspective. The most obvious example is Darwin’s theory of evolution. He provided humanity with a lens that explained the natural world. Everywhere you point that lens, the world looks different, and there is no going back to old ideas. You <em>can’t unsee it.</em></p> <p>Of course, I’m no Darwin, but one can dream.</p> <p>My area of interest is human nature. Despite mountains of research and experiments, large parts of the human experience remain a mystery. Psychology and Social Science have come a long way, but there are still gaps in our knowledge. I often return to the age-old question: <em>Why are we the way we are?</em></p> <p>I believe it’s possible to explain our differences and similarities from an original perspective you can’t find in textbooks or research papers. I have hunches and hypotheses that will take time to test and develop. If they bear fruit, I believe a new lens on human nature is possible. That’s my goal.</p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">The Project</h2> <p>You’ve seen me discuss the <a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly92aWJlZG5hLmNvbQ==" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Vibes Project</a>. It’s an effort to research, understand, and explain “vibes” like coolness and nerdiness. I know how that sounds. If someone told me they were studying coolness, I’d probably be skeptical or even dismissive. What is there to know, really?</p> <p>There is a lot to know, we just haven’t been looking in the right places.</p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">The Big Questions</h2> <p>We all know about coolness and nerdiness because they’re ubiquitous in our lives. We often think about ourselves, friends, family, and fictional characters in the context of coolness and nerdiness. We’re bombarded by ads and marketing that reinforce the idea that coolness can be purchased.</p> <p>Popular culture has characterized coolness and nerdiness so often that the stereotypes seem to tell the whole story: The Fonz is cool, and nerds wear pocket protectors. These tropes have kernels of truth, but they are incomplete and reductive. We can do so much better.</p> <p><strong>If you strip away the stereotypes, what’s there? What is it about us, as humans, that relates to these vibes? Why do they have such a powerful influence on our culture? What roles do they play in how we see ourselves and connect with one another?</strong></p> <p>These are big questions without clear answers. I’ve read books and researched nerdiness and coolness as independent qualities, but I haven’t found analyses of them as part of the same social spectrum. By looking at them together as “vibes” that everyone experiences, I believe we can understand them with more accuracy and empathy.</p> <p>In this phase of the Vibes Project, I’m laying the groundwork for bigger ideas. I’m in the process of outlining a handful of human qualities that represent new perspectives on coolness and nerdiness.</p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">The Roots of Cool Series</h2> <p>I recently completed a series of five posts on <a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudmliZWRuYS5jb20vcC9zZXJpZXMtMS10aGUtcm9vdHMtb2YtY29vbA==" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">The Roots of Cool</a>. I looked back hundreds of years across Europe, West Africa, and the melting pot of the New World, to find the origins of what we now consider personal “coolness.” The qualities I found are:</p> <ul class="wp-block-list"><li><a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudmliZWRuYS5jb20vcC90aGUtcm9vdHMtb2YtY29vbC1jb21wb3N1cmU=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Composure</a> – A calm and steady demeanor, even under pressure. Detached confidence.</li> <li><a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudmliZWRuYS5jb20vcC90aGUtcm9vdHMtb2YtY29vbC1oaXAtYXdhcmVuZXNz" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Awareness</a> – Social grace and effortless style. Awareness and engagement in popular culture.</li> <li><a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudmliZWRuYS5jb20vcC9yb290cy1vZi1jb29sLTMtcmViZWxsaW9uLXJldm9sdXRpb24=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Rebellion</a> – A willingness to defy norms and break away from mainstream expectations.</li> <li><a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudmliZWRuYS5jb20vcC9yb290cy1vZi1jb29sLTQtYXV0aGVudGljLWV4cHJlc3Npb24=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Authenticity</a> – A dedication to being true to one’s self in all things</li></ul> <p>This helps answer the question: When someone is considered cool, what qualities are present?</p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Classic Coolness</h2> <p>Think about classic examples of “cool” like Miles Davis, Steve McQueen, and Dean Martin. What qualities do they share? While it’s difficult to know them at a deep level, it’s generally agreed that they were <strong>composed and confident</strong>. They had <strong>social grace</strong> and effortlessly <strong>engaged in culture</strong>. They <strong>rebelled</strong> <strong>against traditional ideas</strong> and norms. They <strong>expressed their true selves.</strong></p> <p>While this list may be incomplete, it provides a lens for thinking about coolness outside the stereotypes. With these qualities in place, we can consider virtually any person or character and <em>why they are the way they are</em>.</p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">The Vibes Lens</h2> <p>Experiment with me. Apply the Vibes lens to your life for a couple of days. Think about coolness as a human quality. Notice people who seem cool or not. When you do, think about the qualities above and to what degree they exhibit them. You might discover a new way to think about yourself and others. <strong>Perhaps you won’t be able to </strong><em><strong>unsee it</strong></em><strong>.</strong></p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Coming Soon</h2> <p>I’m working on Series 2 right now, which will explain the qualities of nerdiness. It will go in directions that you do not expect.</p> <p>If this idea interests you, the <a href="https://preview.convertkit-mail.com/click/dpheh0hzhm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudmliZWRuYS5jb20=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Vibes Project newsletter</a> is free and the best way to follow along. If you know someone who would find this interesting, forward this email.</p>]]></content:encoded> <post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">9972</post-id> </item> <item> <title>2024 in 12 Photos</title> <link>https://leelefever.com/2024-in-12-photos/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=2024-in-12-photos</link> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Lee LeFever]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Wed, 08 Jan 2025 00:16:26 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Garden]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Home]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Orcas Island]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Personal]]></category> <category><![CDATA[2024]]></category> <category><![CDATA[new year]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">https://leelefever.com/?p=9926</guid> <description><![CDATA[According to my photos app, I took over 6,400 photos and videos in 2024, or an average of 17 per day. This is not an outlier. The camera on my phone is one of my most-used tools and ends up capturing a visual diary. To wrap up 2024, I’m sharing a photo and a short […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>According to my photos app, I took over 6,400 photos and videos in 2024, or an average of 17 per day. This is not an outlier. The camera on my phone is one of my most-used tools and ends up capturing a visual diary. To wrap up 2024, I’m sharing a photo and a short story for each month of the year.</p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">January 2024 – Solstice Wall Work</h3> <p>Leading up to Christmas of 2023, I started posting videos about the <a href="https://leelefever.com/category/solstice-wall/">Solstice Wall project</a>. To my surprise, the videos got traction and by January, the project had <a href="https://leelefever.com/it-went-viral/">gone viral</a>. I’ll always remember how fun it was to work on the Solstice Wall and feel like others were interested and talking about it. This kind of thing satisfies a deep part of me that I don’t fully understand.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/65CC62EB-A7F9-4F10-BCF9-2C5C5967827E_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9927" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/65CC62EB-A7F9-4F10-BCF9-2C5C5967827E_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/65CC62EB-A7F9-4F10-BCF9-2C5C5967827E_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/65CC62EB-A7F9-4F10-BCF9-2C5C5967827E_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">February 2024 – Solar</h3> <p>Since moving into Flattop, we have tried to become more self-sufficient and invest in making the home experience as efficient as possible. Orcas Island gets windstorms that occasionally knock out power, which we soon discovered knocked out the pumps that move water and waste. After a year-long waitlist, we <a href="https://leelefever.com/sun-powered/">installed solar panels</a> on our roof and a battery in our garage that comes on the instant the power goes out. This should offset about 90% of our total power bill.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/B338E40F-796E-44A2-A9CF-AB2818683454_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9928" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/B338E40F-796E-44A2-A9CF-AB2818683454_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/B338E40F-796E-44A2-A9CF-AB2818683454_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/B338E40F-796E-44A2-A9CF-AB2818683454_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">March 2024 – Chainsaw</h3> <p>As any Ready for Rain reader knows, I love <a href="https://leelefever.com/?s=fire">building fires</a>. In the past, we purchased wood by the cord and had it delivered. The next step is processing wood ourselves, and in March, we got the necessary equipment in place. Along with a chainsaw, I got chaps that cover your legs and prevent injuries. Hopefully, we can now support our wood needs from trees on our property or from the trees of friends.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/D57D6BE4-E771-4CA6-A285-62B5AE793439_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9929" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/D57D6BE4-E771-4CA6-A285-62B5AE793439_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/D57D6BE4-E771-4CA6-A285-62B5AE793439_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/D57D6BE4-E771-4CA6-A285-62B5AE793439_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">April 2024 – Driveway Beds</h3> <p>When you drive up to our house, it looks very black, and I wanted to break it up with some natural elements. So, I built new raised beds by the driveway using leftover materials from the <a href="https://leelefever.com/category/building-flattop/">Flattop build</a>. Because the beds are so prominent, it took a while to plan. I wanted them to match the house and feel like they fit. This spring will be a time to bring them to life.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4EC93C44-C733-4928-A568-C1A3ACA8EDF4_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9930" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4EC93C44-C733-4928-A568-C1A3ACA8EDF4_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4EC93C44-C733-4928-A568-C1A3ACA8EDF4_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4EC93C44-C733-4928-A568-C1A3ACA8EDF4_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">May 2024 – Aurora</h3> <p>Before May, I had never seen the Northern Lights. I didn’t expect to see them in our region, but news headlines said it was possible. As we camped with friends, I expected a miniature, far-away version. Once night fell on the first night, a friend pointed up the sky and said, “WHOA!” We all jumped from the campfire and went to an open area to see the aurora borealis covering most of the sky. Brilliant greens and purples moved in waves. I couldn’t believe it was so big and everywhere at once, like a light show inside a dome. 500 years ago, I would assume the world was ending, or some celestial message was being sent.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/8A65697E-86AE-47E6-83CD-FD52E85654A9_1_102_o-1024x768.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9941" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/8A65697E-86AE-47E6-83CD-FD52E85654A9_1_102_o-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/8A65697E-86AE-47E6-83CD-FD52E85654A9_1_102_o-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">June 2024 – Solstice Wall</h3> <p>After years of planning and months of work, the summer solstice of 2024 finally arrived. As the sun set, I could see the <a href="https://leelefever.com/category/solstice-wall/">Solstice Wall</a> in all its glory. Thankfully, it was a sunny day, and my timelapse setup worked. The project was finally completed and passed the “Did it match the solstice shadow?” test.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="551" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4A84414A-EF73-454E-A35D-49053A15FB74_1_105_c-1024x551.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9934" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4A84414A-EF73-454E-A35D-49053A15FB74_1_105_c-1024x551.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4A84414A-EF73-454E-A35D-49053A15FB74_1_105_c-980x527.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/4A84414A-EF73-454E-A35D-49053A15FB74_1_105_c-480x258.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">Screenshot</figcaption></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">July 2024 – Boat Steering</h3> <p>The longer I live by the ocean, the more I learn about boats and how to fix them. Boats seem to suffer from entropy more than other objects. They are constantly degrading in one way or another and I want to get better at fixing what I can. Our 15′ boat, Short Story, has always had sticky steering, especially in the winter. As the Spring of 2024 approached, I was trying to unstick the steering and broke the assembly, putting the boat out of commission. I started taking it apart and before I knew it, I understood how it all fit together. I took out the entire steering system, ordered parts, and replaced it. Short Story was back in action. This project is honestly one of my top accomplishments in 2024.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/38F4B1FD-F522-4714-8C64-24CF7CFA18A3-1024x768.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9935" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/38F4B1FD-F522-4714-8C64-24CF7CFA18A3-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/38F4B1FD-F522-4714-8C64-24CF7CFA18A3-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">August 2024 – Maybe</h3> <p>Our dog Maybe passed away in August. She was such a sweet, people-pleasing companion. We all miss her.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/86855CBC-AB60-4AFE-9EAF-A55322431B16_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9936" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/86855CBC-AB60-4AFE-9EAF-A55322431B16_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/86855CBC-AB60-4AFE-9EAF-A55322431B16_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/86855CBC-AB60-4AFE-9EAF-A55322431B16_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">September 2024 – Squash</h3> <p>As with any garden, learning what will grow can take years. Just because peppers did well one year does not mean they “work”. Each year is a wildcard, I’m learning. This year we didn’t get the kind of warmth you need for things like peppers, but it was a good year for squash. Even on our small scale, I love the late summer harvest.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/5FC29864-4ED9-4549-9952-B32442F42FD3_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9937" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/5FC29864-4ED9-4549-9952-B32442F42FD3_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/5FC29864-4ED9-4549-9952-B32442F42FD3_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/5FC29864-4ED9-4549-9952-B32442F42FD3_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">October 2024 – Mushrooms</h3> <p>Like many people, I was scared of eating wild mushrooms. They’re not easy to identify and can kill you. For unknown reasons, 2024 was a bumper year for fungi on Orcas Island. They were everywhere you looked. A new neighbor, who is an expert forager, took us foraging within walking distance from our house. I couldn’t believe the bounty. We came home with more lobster mushrooms and chanterelles than we could eat. The lesson from her: focus on 2-3 mushrooms you like and can identify easily. Ignore everything else.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/12A289A8-39C7-425D-AED3-7FCACE2C5FC8_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9938" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/12A289A8-39C7-425D-AED3-7FCACE2C5FC8_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/12A289A8-39C7-425D-AED3-7FCACE2C5FC8_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/12A289A8-39C7-425D-AED3-7FCACE2C5FC8_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h3 class="wp-block-heading">November 2024 – Bingo</h3> <p>As the tourist season winds down, people on Orcas breathe a little easier. There are no crowds, and some things close for the winter. Thankfully, local business owners are starting to create fun locals-focused events. One is a night of Bingo at Cafe Aurora, which is owned by our friends Amy and Andrew. Andrew runs the game and the prizes, which are never to be underestimated. In November, I won a single game and came home with a gallon of pepperoncini, five pounds of Lawry’s Seasoning, and a bucket of coconut oil. Amazing!</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/FC3A3E36-1401-4C9B-BB04-1BD3ECC63EA4_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9939" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/FC3A3E36-1401-4C9B-BB04-1BD3ECC63EA4_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/FC3A3E36-1401-4C9B-BB04-1BD3ECC63EA4_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/FC3A3E36-1401-4C9B-BB04-1BD3ECC63EA4_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p></p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">December 2024 – Barn Bazaare</h2> <p>By the time December arrives, it’s easy to be an indoorsman. The weather is often bad and activities are put on a shelf. One of the things I look forward to is holiday festivities, which are a time to meet up with friends. This year offered something new: a holiday bazaar in a huge barn. It was called Flocking Swans and I hope it returns next year.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="768" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/BCED01AF-E2BC-440F-8D72-EC7D711B0C2D_1_105_c.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9940" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/BCED01AF-E2BC-440F-8D72-EC7D711B0C2D_1_105_c.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/BCED01AF-E2BC-440F-8D72-EC7D711B0C2D_1_105_c-980x735.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/BCED01AF-E2BC-440F-8D72-EC7D711B0C2D_1_105_c-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Wishing you a happy and prosperous 2025!</p>]]></content:encoded> <post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">9926</post-id> </item> <item> <title>Searching for Footnote</title> <link>https://leelefever.com/searching-for-footnote/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=searching-for-footnote</link> <comments>https://leelefever.com/searching-for-footnote/#comments</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Lee LeFever]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Wed, 18 Sep 2024 18:22:11 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Boating]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Lifestyle]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Pacific Northwest]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Story]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dog]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dogs]]></category> <category><![CDATA[footnote]]></category> <category><![CDATA[novella]]></category> <category><![CDATA[piper]]></category> <category><![CDATA[ready for rain]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">https://leelefever.com/?p=9850</guid> <description><![CDATA[After years of working together, Sachi has taken on a new adventure: she is a professional baker. ]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Living where we do, in the San Juan Islands, the opportunities to explore are virtually endless. There are 176 named islands and most are only accessible by boat. The Gulf Islands, just across the aquatic border in Canada, have over 200 islands. This is what makes our region a popular boating destination. People, mostly in big comfortable boats, spend weeks or months island hopping and anchoring in coves and harbors.</p> <p>The allure of this lifestyle was irresistible. We saw an opportunity to leave home for days at a time and explore. This would be our form of vacation travel. Almost 2 years ago, we invested in a motor boat just big enough to sleep two people and two dogs. She’s a Jeanneau NC 795 that is 26’ long with an outboard motor. We named her <em>Novella</em> and started the long journey of becoming more competent boaters.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="548" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Novella-1024x548.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9851" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Novella-1024x548.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Novella-980x525.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Novella-480x257.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">Screenshot</figcaption></figure> <p>As we searched for boats, our friend LJ, a very experienced boater, reminded us of something important to consider. When you have dogs aboard, they will need to go ashore multiple times a day to relieve themselves. She said to think carefully about how that process would work. This was sage advice. For most boaters, this process happens with an inflatable dinghy that attaches to the boat when not used.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="807" height="605" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3736.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9859" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3736.jpg 807w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3736-480x360.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 807px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>During our first summer with Novella, we borrowed a dinghy on a couple of trips and I learned to steer with the tiller of a small electric motor lent to us by our friend Will. The system worked, so we made plans to get our own dinghy for the 2024 season and store it on the roof of Novella. I named it Footnote, in keeping with our literary theme. Thankfully, Will said we could continue using his motor. We were set.</p> <p>Learning never stops in boating. The basics, like driving and docking, are pretty easy. What takes time is getting all the processes and systems down for safety, comfort, and optimizing time on the water. For example, when we’re at anchor and not connected to the shore, we have to manage and conserve electricity and potable water. We need to feel confident about how we’re anchored and how the weather and tides will change over time. Every trip gives us practice and teaches us new lessons.</p> <p>Our version of cruising is a lot like camping. The space and supplies are limited, and we sometimes cook with a Coleman stove. It feels like having your own little island that is completely independent. You don’t need anyone’s permission to anchor. We both love the feeling of being alone. The big difference is that your campsite could sink and you could die. That fear is in the back of every boater’s mind, and for good reason. It can happen.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="806" height="605" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_5006.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9857" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_5006.jpeg 806w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_5006-480x360.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 806px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>A few weeks ago, we planned to spend two nights on Novella in Fisherman’s Bay, which is off of nearby Lopez Island. This trip seemed easy and more carefree. The bay has a reliable anchorage, a couple of marinas, and a classic restaurant/tiki bar at The Lopez Islander Resort.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="696" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-1024x696.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9855" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-1024x696.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-300x204.jpg 300w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-768x522.jpg 768w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-1080x734.jpg 1080w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-1280x870.jpg 1280w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-980x666.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM-480x326.jpg 480w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.11.28 AM.jpg 1418w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">Screenshot</figcaption></figure> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="696" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-1024x696.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9856" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-1024x696.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-300x204.jpg 300w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-768x522.jpg 768w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-1080x734.jpg 1080w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-1280x870.jpg 1280w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-980x666.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM-480x326.jpg 480w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.09.54 AM.jpg 1418w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">Screenshot</figcaption></figure> <p>Leading up to the trip, we both looked forward to having dinner at the Islander and Sachi said, “I’m <em>definitely</em> going to have a drink Wednesday night”. I agreed wholeheartedly and didn’t think much of it. On Tuesday morning, I was reminded of something important: Wednesday was our 20th wedding anniversary. No wonder she wanted a drink! Shit. We laughed. Anniversaries have never been a thing for us.</p> <p>This realization provided the trip with new resonance. We were now there to celebrate and looked forward to spending our anniversary day afloat and carefree. On Tuesday evening, just before sunset, we loaded Piper into Footnote, our new dinghy, to go ashore. Most marinas have “dinghy docks” which are low-lying docks that boaters use to access land-base amenities.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="779" height="450" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3748.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9852" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3748.jpg 779w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3748-480x277.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 779px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Piper and I made our way to the dock and she did her business before we made the return trip. These evening trips feel like a tiny sunset cruise and we both enjoy them.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="976" height="1024" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-976x1024.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9854" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-976x1024.jpg 976w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-286x300.jpg 286w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-768x806.jpg 768w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-1080x1134.jpg 1080w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-980x1029.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM-480x504.jpg 480w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.20.37 AM.jpg 1210w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 976px) 100vw, 976px" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">Screenshot</figcaption></figure> <p>Just LJ advised, we’ve developed a system for getting dogs off the boat. Sachi waits at the swim step and as we arrive, she grabs a short line and attaches it to Novella so the dinghy stays close. Once that’s secure, Piper can jump out and I can prepare to disembark. When the motor is switched off, we use a longer line to attach Footnote to Novella so it floats safely nearby overnight.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="807" height="605" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3724.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9858" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3724.jpg 807w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_3724-480x360.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 807px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>On the eve of our anniversary, my return to Novella was a little different. Sachi was cooking dinner and didn’t want to leave the galley for too long. Sachi tied the short line to Novella, got Piper onto the boat, and said, “You got it?” I said, “Yep, I got it. I got it.” I then switched off the motor and unhooked the <em>short line</em> from Novella so Footnote could float using the long line. I stepped out of Footnote and into dinner.</p> <p>We hung out for about an hour as the sun went down. With just a bit of light left, I looked at the back of the boat and it felt like lightning went down my spine. Footnote was <em>gone</em>. I said, “Uh, where’s the dinghy?” We both started to panic. Shit. Shit. Shit. Sachi put her head between her folded arms and took measure of the situation.</p> <p>There was no time for analysis or recrimination. The light was going away, and with it, any hope of finding Footnote that night. Tidal currents are constantly flowing into and out of Fisherman’s Bay. When Footnote was lost, the tide was going out and the wind was blowing in the same direction. So, we decided to try to find it.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="670" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-1024x670.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9853" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-1024x670.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-300x196.jpg 300w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-768x502.jpg 768w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-1080x706.jpg 1080w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-1280x837.jpg 1280w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-980x641.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM-480x314.jpg 480w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Screenshot-2024-09-17-at-11.26.28 AM.jpg 1514w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">Screenshot</figcaption></figure> <p>We pulled up the anchor and Sachi grabbed our spotlight. As I started the engine, she was perched on the bow of Novella. With everything in place, we puttered around the bay for 30 minutes in the dark, our spotlight sweeping the shore. The navigation screen at the helm was essential for avoiding obstacles and shallow areas, but it was so bright I couldn’t see anything. I didn’t know how to adjust the brightness, so I put my hat over it and leaned out of the window to see and talk to Sachi. It was fruitless. We’d returned to the same spot as before, set the anchor, and started to prepare for a restless night.</p> <p>It was obvious what happened. When Piper and I returned from shore and Sachi said, “You got it?”, she was referring to me attaching the <em>long line</em>. I thought she meant unhooking the<em> short one</em>. When I stepped off, Footnote began to drift and we didn’t notice. All in all, it was my fault for not checking everything before heading inside. I was embarrassed and feared having to explain this situation to fellow boaters. I was THAT guy.</p> <p>We were both exhausted and wondering what to do. Our new dinghy and borrowed motor could be lost forever. Could it have washed ashore somewhere as the tide went out? Was it now floating aimlessly in the Salish Sea? I considered using our VHF radio to alert other boaters that night. Who knows, the Coast Guard could even get involved. Nothing sounded worth pursuing until morning when we could take a look ourselves.</p> <p>On the morning of our 20th anniversary, we awoke to low tide and a lot of anxiety. I started to map a path for the search using our paddleboard. We decided that the best starting point would be the dinghy dock at the marina. Could someone have seen Footnote, grabbed it, and tied it up for us? Fat chance. It was almost dark when it floated away.</p> <p>As I got closer to the dock, I saw something familiar but dismissed it. Then, as I paddled closer, it became clearer: Footnote was there. <em>OMG</em>. A weight was lifted and I slouched in relief. A kind and anonymous boater had saved our dinghy, and with it, our anniversary celebration. I stepped in, slid the paddleboard across Footnote like airplane wings, and cruised back to Sachi and Novella like a conquering Viking with inflatable booty. There was much rejoicing and our plans could begin again.</p> <p>For all the stress and anxiety this caused, it ended up being such a valuable lesson. I’ll never let a dinghy float away again. And if I see a random dinghy float by, I will do everything in my power to save it and return it to the owner. Also, I now know how to change the brightness on the navigation screen.</p> <p>But more than that, it made me rethink the idea of boating being independent. Yes, we were alone, but we were also part of a community of other boaters who are motivated to help one another. Cruising can be incredibly fun and easy, but the reality remains: your campsite could sink and you could die. Because this is the case, we look out for one another. We ask for help and offer help. It’s the boater’s code and this time, we were beneficiaries. I hope some day to return the favor.</p> <p>We still have so much more to learn and it will come in time and through experiences like this one. As long as we stay afloat, we’ll have a good time.</p>]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://leelefever.com/searching-for-footnote/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> <post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">9850</post-id> </item> <item> <title>We Should All Be So Lucky</title> <link>https://leelefever.com/we-should-all-be-so-lucky/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=we-should-all-be-so-lucky</link> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Lee LeFever]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Wed, 04 Sep 2024 19:34:13 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Pets]]></category> <category><![CDATA[bosco]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dog]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dogs]]></category> <category><![CDATA[maybe]]></category> <category><![CDATA[piper]]></category> <category><![CDATA[ready for rain]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">https://leelefever.com/?p=9833</guid> <description><![CDATA[After years of working together, Sachi has taken on a new adventure: she is a professional baker. ]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s been a sad phase for us lately. We lost Maybe, our 10-year-old Bernedoodle last week. The essay below is about loving, enjoying, and saying goodbye to our canine friends.</p> <hr class="wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity"/> <p>In 2013, Sachi and I considered getting a second dog. I asked her, “If you could combine two dogs, what would you want?”.</p> <p>She thought briefly and said, “A cross between a poodle and a Bernese mountain dog.” I did a quick web search. This was the moment we learned about the existence of a Bernedoodle. These are large dogs, sometimes over 100 pounds, with the poodle features of intelligence, low shedding hair, and hypoallergenic. The Bernese side added goofiness, color, and good nature. It seemed like a fit.</p> <p>One of the reasons to get a second dog was to have two. Our dog Bosco was 4 years old and we wanted him to have a playmate. Also, we love dogs and wanted more. A big question loomed: how would Bosco react?</p> <p>The Bernedoodle puppy arrived via air freight from a family in Ohio. At the airport, we found multiple puppies waiting for new owners. Inside a medium-sized crate was a tiny black ball and we named her “Maybe”. I wish the name had a rich story, but it came from a dog-friendly hotel that listed the names of arriving “guests”. Sachi, in particular, fell in love with the name.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="577" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Puppy-Maybe-2.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9834" style="width:823px;height:auto" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Puppy-Maybe-2.jpeg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Puppy-Maybe-2-980x552.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Puppy-Maybe-2-480x270.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Bosco, a lab and springer spaniel mix, was a good big brother. He was patient with the annoying puppy and they became attached at the hip. I felt bad for him, at times, because she would NOT leave him alone. I asked a vet friend, “How long will she keep this up?” Her answer: 2-3 years. Poor Bosco.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="576" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/flying-maybe-1024x576.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9835" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/flying-maybe-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/flying-maybe-980x552.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/flying-maybe-480x270.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Being a little sister, Maybe played a supporting role. Bosco was extremely connected to us in the way that labs can be. He was more human than most dogs and you could see it in his face.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="762" height="452" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/bosco-looking.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9836" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/bosco-looking.jpeg 762w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/bosco-looking-480x285.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 762px, 100vw" /></figure> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">The Trip, The Trouble</h2> <p>Within a year or so, Sachi and I planned a big trip. We would pack both dogs in our car, drive from Seattle to Charleston, SC, and stay for a few months. We worked from home and wanted to take advantage of making our temporary home somewhere else, somewhere very different. We planned for months and counted the days with growing excitement.</p> <p>About 20 days before departure, Bosco was diagnosed with canine lymphoma, a terminal cancer in dogs. Everything changed. The first chemo protocol didn’t work and we faced a grim reality: he would pass in a matter of months. We were crushed.</p> <p>We decided that the trip to Charleston would be his swan song. The new “rescue” chemo put him in remission and he seemed normal. We could pretend, for a couple of months, that he was fine.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="957" height="577" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/sachi-bosco-driving.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9837" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/sachi-bosco-driving.jpeg 957w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/sachi-bosco-driving-480x289.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 957px, 100vw" /></figure> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">The Asterisk</h2> <p>It was a surreal experience to be on this amazing trip with so much to see and do, yet always knowing that your dog is going to die soon. I call this “the asterisk”.</p> <p>At the time I had problems with anxiety and my mind always found a way to worry or discount the future. The asterisk is the constant reminder that tempers any happiness. It goes like this: What a fun day at the beach* [Bosco is dying]. Living in Charleston is such a treat* [Bosco is dying]. The asterisk steals joy and my anxious brain could not let it go.</p> <p>Just after New Year’s in 2016, Bosco died in our temporary Charleston home. He was five years old. Over the months of worry and sadness, we came to terms with the inevitable and saw his passing as a relief. He never knew pain. We did the best we could.</p> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Maybe’s Rise</h2> <p>Starting then, Maybe rose to prominence in our lives. Being so focused on Bosco, I didn’t appreciate Maybe as much. She was a wallflower in a chaotic situation and it took time for her to become the star. We returned home to Seattle with one dog and a new beginning. Without Bosco around, we could experience and appreciate Maybe from a new perspective.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="592" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7225-1024x592.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9838" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7225-1024x592.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7225-980x567.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7225-480x278.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Maybe seemed to come out of her shell. She filled Bosco’s role and I came to know her better than before. In human terms, it felt like Bosco was the popular jock and Maybe was the valedictorian. You didn’t have to worry about her. She listens, gets straight A’s, and will go to a good school. That said, she was very vocal and always let you know how she was feeling. We called her “<em>Maybe, Lady Barks-a-Lot, Duchess of Barkington</em>“.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="635" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/P1070213-1024x635.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9839" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/P1070213-980x608.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/P1070213-480x298.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Two Dogs, Again</h2> <p>Within a couple of years, we decided to become a two-dog household once again. We went back to the same Bernedoodle breeder, got Piper, and the cycle started over. This time, Maybe was on the front lines of Piper’s constant attention.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="625" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_8677-1024x625.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9840" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_8677-980x598.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_8677-480x293.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Maybe was a naturally sweet and we told her that often. Her sweetness came out when she was around puppies. When we brought Piper home, we were on the floor lavishing her with attention. Without any prompting, Maybe brought over a toy and placed it gently in front of Piper. She nudged it closer and closer until Piper noticed. Then she barely moved so Piper didn’t get scared.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="729" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7468-1024x729.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9841" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7468-1024x729.jpg 1024w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7468-980x697.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7468-480x342.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>It was her nature to be gentle and kind to people and puppies.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="689" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7195-1024x689.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9842" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7195-980x659.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_7195-480x323.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Piper and Maybe became fast friends and were inseparable. Over a few years, we moved them both from Seattle to our yurt-shaped house on Orcas, a tiny guest house, and finally to Flattop. Maybe was the leader and Piper was the follower. In the human sense, Piper was the cheerleader: pretty and enthusiastic.</p> <p>Her entire life, Maybe was possessive of toys. Even as a puppy, she bossed around Bosco if he was too interested in a toy. It wasn’t aggression, but assertiveness. That toy is hers and it’s her right to take it. This was Piper’s reality, too. If she showed too much interest in us, or a toy, Maybe would rush in and bark in protest. We would say “Watch out Piper, here comes the fun police.”</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-large"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1024" height="641" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_0355-2-1024x641.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9843" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_0355-2-980x613.jpeg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_0355-2-480x300.jpeg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1024px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>As of 2024, Maybe was 10 years old, and Piper was 6. When a dog reaches double digits, it becomes clear that most of their life is behind them. Maybe was surprisingly spry for a geriatric dog and able to jump easily onto the bed, into the truck, etc. She loved to chase Piper around the garden and fetch a purple ball we’d had for years. In the last six months, I noticed her fetching had become slower. She got up from naps with a bit of soreness. I could relate.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="966" height="675" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_1786.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9844" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_1786.jpg 966w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_1786-480x335.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 966px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>Sachi and I both wanted Maybe to last forever but knew, within a few years, we’d have to say goodbye. Having been through so much with Bosco, it filled us both with dread. Dog owners often face the same end-of-life dilemma: wanting a dog to live as long as possible, but not at the expense of the dog’s happiness and well-being. Too often, in my opinion, owners can’t let go and wait too long.</p> <p>Knowing that Maybe was aging, we both spoiled her. She got human food when Piper wasn’t looking. She was loved and kissed and coddled every day. Her soulful eyes always seemed to send a message of love. She wanted for nothing and that was exactly what we wanted.</p> <figure class="wp-block-image size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1022" height="689" src="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_6936.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9845" srcset="https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_6936.jpg 1022w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_6936-980x661.jpg 980w, https://leelefever.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/IMG_6936-480x324.jpg 480w" sizes="auto, (min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) 1022px, 100vw" /></figure> <p>On Monday, August 19th, I took a break from work and took the dogs outside to play. As usual, Maybe was barking and wanting to fetch. So, I grabbed the purple ball and threw it. As sometimes happens, she picked it up and refused to bring it to me. So I walked across the garden, picked it up, and turned to Piper to get her interested. When I turned around, Maybe was lying on her side with her legs spasming, in the throes of a seizure. I felt so helpless. All I could do was say “Oh Maybe, Oh Maybe, no no no.” Within a few seconds, she was gone. No breathing, no pulse. I was frantic and not sure what to do.</p> <p>I called Sachi who rushed home from work. I led her back to our bedroom where I laid Maybe down in a blanket on the floor. As she reached the floor I wanted to soothe Sachi’s emotions and said, “I was with her. She was never in pain. She was happy and then she was gone.” With tears in her eyes, Sachi said something I’ll never forget, “We should all be so lucky”.</p> <p>We cried for the rest of the day and talked about Maybe’s life. We discussed the inevitability of death and that it comes for us all. In this way, Maybe was fortunate and so were we. She made it ten years and they were good ones. We had so much fun together.</p> <p>The end of Maybe’s life didn’t come with an asterisk. There was never a period of worry or stress about Maybe. She was a happy vivacious dog and then she was gone. We should all be so lucky.</p> <p>R.I.P. Maybe. You were the best.</p> <p></p>]]></content:encoded> <post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">9833</post-id> </item> <item> <title>Vibes Project Domain Names</title> <link>https://leelefever.com/vibes-project-domain-names/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=vibes-project-domain-names</link> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Lee LeFever]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Sat, 31 Aug 2024 22:26:54 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Vibes Project]]></category> <category><![CDATA[domain names]]></category> <category><![CDATA[strategy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vibes]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">https://leelefever.com/?p=9812</guid> <description><![CDATA[The Vibes Project is based on a simple hypothesis: By understanding vibes, we can understand one another. ]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For now, the project will live on my website at leelefever.com/vibes. This provides an easy way to collect blog posts and share the big ideas. Some day, I may use an independent domain and I think it’s smart to start building awareness for it now. </p> <p>For months, I’ve been searching for the right domain and found that almost anything with “Vibes” in it is taken. The term, for better or for worse, is having a moment right now and I assume there is demand for it. VibesProject.com is available for about $1,000 and I’m not ready for that kind of expense right now. As an aside: this is a passion project that is fully self-funded and has no business model. </p> <p>One of my concerns about the project is that “vibes” sounds unserious to some and I see it too. The traditional concept of vibes is amorphous and that’s part of the mystery. What if it can be more concrete? What if vibes can help us understand one another? In this telling, the idea can be deeper and more serious than it sounds.</p> <p>I hoped to find a short and memorable .com domain that added some weight to the idea of vibes and referenced vibes as being a part of every person. </p> <p>Today I reserved two domains:</p> <ul class="wp-block-list"><li><a href="http://vibeDNA.com">vibeDNA.com</a></li></ul> <ul class="wp-block-list"><li><a href="http://vibesDNA.com">vibesDNA.com</a></li></ul> <p>For now, these will work just fine. I hope the use of “DNA” frames the idea of vibes being innate and the project being focused on the mystery. </p>]]></content:encoded> <post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">9812</post-id> </item> </channel></rss> If you would like to create a banner that links to this page (i.e. this validation result), do the following:
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